When Motherhood Throws You Lemons and Tantrums

Monday, July 28, 2014

Let's face it...being a mom is tough. 

Being a mother isn't all about sparkles and glitter or story time and ABC's. Being a mother is a hard but yet rewarding job all at once. If you noticed I haven't posted on here in three days; that's a long time for me to go without dropping in to say something. Truthfully though, I didn't know what to say other than "help me."

The last week or so as been quite a rough time for me. My sweet Little Bug is teething to the max with every tooth known to mankind popping out at once (molars included) and is smack dab in the middle of a leap (I go by The Wonder Weeks). Our nap times have been off and our nights have been pretty rough (like she wakes up every two hours). Our attempt at slowly weaning has taken about two steps back and temper tantrums is on full blast in this home. 

Motherhood is the most rewarding and amazing job ever, no doubt. In fact, it's sort of a magical thing because no matter how sleep deprived you are and no matter how "over it" you may be, there's still these magical moments that make your heart swoon; moments that take place right in the midst of the chaos. 

But no one tells you all that motherhood entails other than a few expressions like "say goodbye to sleep" and "your life is about to change." Well yea those are obvious points to make, but no one tells you the real shit. 

No one tells you that you'll literally have moments of wanting to hide under the covers for just five minutes because you literally don't know what to do to make your child stop crying. Or heck, maybe you just need five minutes of peace. No one tells you the fact that you will lose your patience. After saying "no" 1,001 times in a span of five minutes, no one tells you that you will say "no" so loud that you then want to cry and hide under a rock because you suddenly feel like the worst mom ever. No one tells you that you literally won't know what to do to make your toddler happy and that you'll eventually want to cry along with them because your frustration and emotions are on overdrive. 

And let's talk about the doubt you'll battle with. Doubt is the worst crap a mother can face. Doubt is when you're hiding out in the bathroom peeing for ten minutes (child is with their daddy) and you're literally on the verge of tears wondering if you are doing something wrong. Your child won't nap, they won't sleep well, the routine you had is suddenly gone and their "toddler tantrums" are on overdrive. So you sit there, wondering if you're even doing it right and/or if you're going to pass out from exhaustion at any given moment. 

You wonder if you let them watch too much TV. You wonder if the meals you're fixing them are the best you can do. You wonder if you're handling the tantrums the right way and you wonder if and when you'll ever sleep again. I hate the doubt; it freaking sucks. I hate when motherhood gets you to such a vulnerable place that you doubt if you've even done things the "right way." Your friend's baby sleeps all night and your other friend's baby doesn't ever seem to be going bat shit crazy (or so your friend says they don't). But truthfully I don't believe it...I believe every kid is going to go bat shit crazy at least once and every mother will literally be at wits end at least once. That is motherhood. 

But as I stated before, motherhood is magical. Yes, it has been rough and exhausting. Yes, I have turned to Mickey Mouse more than usual to keep me sane the past few days and yes, I have sat there on the verge of tears wondering if I went wrong somewhere. However, I have had a ton of kisses and cuddles and a ton of "muah" from a toddler who now knows how to blow kisses. I may be tired, but I still look forward to seeing that face every morning and hearing, "mama." My mind may be exhausted but my heart is full. 

So when motherhood throws you lemons you make diffused water (or so that is what we do with lemons) and when it throws you tantrums, you just roll with the punches. No matter how tired you are and no matter how "over it" you may be, all you can do is hold your little one close and give them all the love in the world to help them get through the rough stages of growing up. You can pray, you can sing and you can give them pep talks. You do what you have to for them and their comfort and well being. That is motherhood. 

It's full of lemons, it's full of tantrums and it's totally full of magical, amazing moments. 

Please, please tell me someone can relate. 
Thanks for reading (I'm off to nap), Sasha

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The Easiest Way to GO Green

Thursday, July 24, 2014

Recently I was asked the question, "what do I think is the easiest way to go green." And today I am going to answer that for you. 

There can be several different ways to answer the above question. I could perhaps just give you one simple change to make and say that that is your best and easiest way to go green. For instance, the use of reusable shopping totes is a pretty easy and very green change to make in your lifestyle; simple enough right?

 I could also answer the above question by telling you the best way to go green in your lifestyle as a whole
And that's what I will do. 

Why Are You Going Green?
Going green isn't something that you just wake up one day and decide to do on a whim. Usually someone goes green because of startling research, information or events that engage them enough to become curious and mindful. Perhaps a viral Facebook article catches your attention or perhaps a documentary about global warming does it for you; something has to ignite the fire. 

It Takes Time
Once you decide that your lifestyle needs some changes, whether it is for the betterment of yourself or the planet, you have to realize that it takes time to make those changes. Going green is not easy in this easy access, convenient and wasteful society that we live in. Sometimes it's hard to find others to relate to and ask your questions to, but thankfully due to a growing "trend" of green thinkers, it's becoming easier to find the help you need. In a way, I think your planet is slowly heading towards a green revolution thanks to many green minded, crunchy people. 

Small Changes Produce Big Results
Small changes eventually lead to even bigger changes. For example, my need to rid our home of wasteful and toxic disposable diapers led me to purchasing biodegradable, safe disposable diapers and then later led me to good ole' fashioned cloth diapering. Small changes fuel you for bigger changes down the road. Small changes make the transition much easier (as well as slowly helps your loved ones to get acquainted with the idea that you're making some changes). While you may think that changing just one thing in your lifestyle isn't enough to impact the planet, I promise that it is. 

It Takes Time to Learn
It takes time to do research and time to learn labels and ingredients. It takes time to understand what words like composting and frankincense mean. Ingredients and label reading becomes a new task that takes some getting used to and for someone who has never successfully kept a plant alive, a garden can suddenly become your life's greatest adventure. Going green isn't a competition or a crunchy mommy war to see who can lead the "greenest" lifestyle, but instead it is simply about taking the time to educate yourself and slowly, but surely, change your lifestyle to reflect those changes. 

Realize That You'll Never Be Perfect
And finally, the easiest way to go green is to realize that perfection is impossible. You simply can't live a 100% green life, 100% of the time. You're going to forget those reusable totes on occasion and sometimes you're going to indulge in a yummy bag of Oreos that was shipped in from BFE and are the farthest thing from organic. Life is too short to strive for perfection. It's about finding the balance and the confidence to go green while still enjoying the ride. You have to live a little. 

While you may sometimes feel lost in a world of non green thinkers, you'll eventually realize that your way is what works for you. The knowledge that you acquire while going green makes you feel like a walking encyclopedia for everything that is unhealthy for yourself and your planet. It makes you feel like with each new change you make, your saving yourself as well as your family and the planet in which you live. You'll find the confidence you need to live your life your way and you'll find the peace within yourself to still enjoy it to the fullest. 

So really, going green is pretty dang easy. 

Why did you decide to or 
why are you thinking about going green?
Thanks for reading, Sasha
This was written to answer the question, "What do you think is the easiest way to go green"
as part of the requirements to be on ecollege finders top green living blogs resource page. 
The Mushy Mommy was nominated as one of these blogs. 
Thanks to all for reading and continually sharing these posts. xo! 

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Be Informed About Toxic Lice Treatments This School Year

Wednesday, July 23, 2014

Does everyone remember those head lice checks you always had to do in school? Luckily, I managed to pass the regular checks that our teachers did. Now as a parent, I am so happy to feature this article from School Nurse Products because it sheds the light on just how toxic lice treatments are. While this article may get "sciencey" on you, I promise that you'll be amazed at just how toxic these common lice treatments are. Make sure to share this with your fellow parents, schools and teachers as the facts are quite shocking. 

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) estimates that anywhere between 6 million and 12 million kids are infested each year in the U.S. with head lice.

No one likes the idea of head lice and the mention of head lice has us all scratching our heads.  But don’t run to the nearest store to buy just any lice-killing shampoo or medication.  Lice shampoos typically contain toxic ingredients and chemicals that may cause your child harm.  Marketers of these lice killing products may describe these products as safe but one study into insecticidal shampoos concluded that they may increase the risk of childhood leukemia.  These products can be toxic or carcinogenic to your child, and may even be losing their effectiveness – this is because lice appear to have gradually become resistant to some of the chemicals found in these head lice killing products. 

Find Me Over at Breastfeeding Place

Tuesday, July 22, 2014

I'm a firm believer in the idea that it takes a "village" to breastfeed a baby. I know the expression is that it takes a village to raise a child, but I prefer the expression it takes a village to breastfeed a baby. For most mamas, this expression stands true. 

When you're a first time lactating mother, you really don't know what to expect and how to overcome hurdles. Sure there are a gazillion books out there but some are so "sciencey" and so boring that it's hard to read and stay interested. Then some of us know hardly anyone who has successfully breastfed a child, leaving us with few people to turn to in times of needs, despair and encouragement.

If it was not for the power of the Internet and for Facebook groups that I belonged to, I highly doubt I'd still be nursing my toddler right now. I personally faced many battles and aside from one sister in law who was six weeks ahead of me in her breastfeeding journey, I didn't know anyone to turn to. And most pediatricians can only do and say so much as many of them are not lactation consultants or even breastfed their child past ____ months. 

Support from others who are in your situation is key to breastfeeding success. Search the Internet for forums and search Facebook for breastfeeding support groups. I know that in my area we have a support group for Baton Rouge Breastfeeding mothers and this includes local areas around the major city as well. This group, along with forums, is what answered my questions many, many times. 

I am so proud to share that I am a new author over at Breastfeeding Place. This breastfeeding website is there to help you with so many obstacles and questions that you may have. The website is easy to navigate based on your needs and all articles are written straight from women like me; women who have been in your shoes. There is also a Facebook group that you can join and ask your questions at. 

Make sure to check out my first post over there, Dealing With Breastfeeding Engorgement, and share it as well as this amazing site with your pregnant and nursing mama friends!

Who helped you through your breastfeeding journey?
Thanks so much for reading, Sasha

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A Look Into the Products I Use on a Daily Basis

Monday, July 21, 2014

Lately I've been getting a lot of questions about what products I use for myself and around my home. I figured I'd nip that in the butt with a post to cover it all. Please note that I'm still learning and have room to grow on this list, especially in our food department. Enjoy and ask me any more questions that you think of!

To disinfect? I use one spray bottle of vinegar and one spray bottle of hydrogen peroxide. Spray one on top of the other and wipe with a damp cloth. This non toxic disinfectant is just as strong as ANY on the market and cost pennies to make.

For an all purpose cleaner? One spray bottle of water with several drops of tea tree oil or Honest Multi-Surface Cleaner. I also still use some of the 10 in 1 from Healthy Home Company.

In my kitchen? I currently am using some leftover products from Earth Friendly Products. Currently our dish detergent is the pear one from Earth Friendly Products and I've been wiping down our counters and table with their Parsley Plus cleaner. For the dishwasher I use The Honest Company detergent pods. We also use Honest Fruit + Veggie Wash (when I think about it).

In my bathroom? I currently use The Honest Company toilet bowl cleaner, bathroom cleaner and some baking soda. I also use my disinfectant as well.

To mop? I use a microfiber mop with a sink full of hot water, 1 cup vinegar and several drops of lemon essential oil.

Laundry detergent? Charlie's Soap for all of our laundry needs and The Honest Company dryer sheets for the occasional fabric softener.

For my face? I currently wash my face with soap and water. Our facial soap is the charcoal bar from Bare Soaps. For moisturizer I have gone between The Honest Company, 3 Girls Holistic and Coconut Oil.

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